Aloke, an only son of higher socioeconomic parents was in the 8th class and attended a good school in the city. His mother most willingly arranged for all personal needs such as brushing teeth, bathing, made his favourite breakfast, put out his uniform and other things needed for school, packed his school books and bag, then woke him for school about half an hour before school time His father dropped him to school in his car before leaving to his office.
All Aloke needed to do was go to school and study. Back from school he would leave his bag in the living room when he went home, his shoes and clothes wherever he changed and his toys where he played. His mother willingly put them away for him. She reasoned that he would learn them automatically. Whatever his demand chocolates, toys or entertainment it was satisfied immediately without effort and he had many things that many other children did not have.
He worked when felt like and just managed to go from one class to next with the marks that he acquired. He often lost his books at school which his father replaced without much effort. At such times his mother would help rewrite all the notes he has lost. Well! What went wrong? His teacher told Aloke’s mother that he was careless in his work, and his uniform was never in its place and untidy most of the time. At home his mother knew that he spent more time watching Television and playing.
His parents were not very happy the way he was shaping but were at a loss to explain it. They had given him everything then why was he not performing at school better? Have you noticed by now, that Aloke made very little to put appropriate effort and was unused to being responsible and haven't think about others even his parents. He was accustomed to receiving love and not to giving it.
Today, the trend is small nuclear families wherein there are two children or an only child. With technology stepping in, parents are also left with lots of free time and money. Due to improper ways to utilize this time and money properly, parents invest them in their children, which backfires in a way and leaves them astonished.
Too much love spoils children. They become accustomed to large doses of love only making them unable to be satisfied with smaller amounts of love later in life. Since there is very little that they do to themselves. They do not see themselves as capable persons. Their confidence in themselves is affected making them incapable of facing life’s problems alone.
Such a child becomes over dependent for his needs, focusing his attention on himself all the time. This makes him selfish and lacking the motivation to express affection for others. In today’s trend where there is the need for greater soft skills, he may later present a negative picture which could lead to maladjustment.