To overindulge in favours where children are involved leads to pampered brats. This causes inconvenience to parents who after years of over pampering face facts.
When a child behaves in an impudent manner, the cause is deeper than the situations that the parents have to handle. The child ignores and defies all rules set by his parents. The child does not behave properly and is often disobedient. It is far convenient to call such a child naughty. Impatience in dealing with children leads to over pampering them. It is when adults want to wriggle out of counselling session that they hurriedly ‘bribe’ the child with sweetmeats and gifts.
That’s when the disadvantages of over pampering strike. Children need nurturing. For that, parents need to be patient, especially regarding childlike behaviour and growing up blues. Parents may give choices to help children make better decisions. The child should have a positive attitude towards life and should be ready to take up future challenges.
Nuclear families are becoming increasingly popular with time. While both parents are earning members in the family and help the financial status of a family, children are seen to be less adaptable and need counselling. Parents are unable to communicate with their own kith and kin and to compensate, fill the toy room with new arrivals from the market. Here, the family elders can play a very important role in a child’s life. They can help the child to express emotions and deal with these kinds of situations.
Teaching a child that actions have consequences is one of the most important lessons a parent or teacher can convey. Understanding the consequences that their own actions will have for themselves and others is the first step; children need to take in order to learn to take responsibility for their own actions, to think before they act, and to respect authority. Therefore, as a form of discipline, the removal of privileges should not be haphazard and aimed simply at punishing a child. Instead the privileges removed should be logically related to the misbehavior and designed to teach the lesson that actions have consequences.
Many parents, especially those who didn’t have many luxuries when growing up, want their children to enjoy the wealth that they worked so hard. If you give your child everything he wants on demand, he will grow up believing the world owes him a living, and will find it hard to cope when realizes it doesn’t.
When children are born, they are like blank slates on which their parents’ help to script the beginnings of the stories of their lives. Every child grows up and ultimately charts his own destiny, but his parents lay the foundation. And everybody knows the consequences of building on a weak foundation. Disciplining children is one way of setting them on the right path and equipping them to wing it on their own.
Years of perseverance from parents and elders will ensure children, who can be happy individuals when they grown up.
